Balance can be a kind of scary word, can’t it? You sometimes hear it used in a negative way in phrases such as “I am balancing too much right now,” or “I can’t balance it all.” It’s like a juggling act, something you cannot seem to keep up with. Life gives us so many things to balance and we want to do it all and be all, while trying to be perfect at it all. It’s like having that “all-or-nothing” perspective, like thinking the only way you will have balance is if you do everything you want to do in one day, and do it perfectly.
We aren’t superheros. Balance isn’t suppose to be hard or thought of that way. When you try to be perfect at it all, you start putting 100% into one or two things from the juggling pot and end up neglecting the others. As a result you get frustrated because you aren’t able to be perfect at everything and you end up giving up. Sound familiar? I have definitely been there before. For me its always been my fitness and nutrition that I have made priority (says the dietitian), for my husband it has been his career. Neither of these are bad unless that is your sole focus.
So what if you started looking at the word balance in a different way? What if you realized you don’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to do it all but can still be fit, healthy, and a successful career woman, wife, mother, or friend?
The key is to just start making small changes. Start spending 30 minutes less at work and 30 minutes more at the gym. Start drinking 1 less coke and 1 more glass of water. Start watching your portion sizes. If you want a piece of cake then have it but maybe just have a smaller piece than you normally would. Whatever your “guilty pleasure” is (mine is fried pickles with ranch dressing), try and have less of it. When I was younger, I remember always asking my mom if something (food related) was bad and she always responded with, “Honey, nothing is necessarily bad.” This would usually annoy me because she always gave such technical answers when what I really wanted to know was how much fat was in it. She could not have been more correct though. Moms know best, right?
You guys, nothing is bad. Okay, I mean some things are bad, like drugs and stealing, but no food is necessarily bad and no small amount of exercise is bad either. Its time to stop restricting yourself, stop trying to be perfect, and start learning to have a little bit of everything within moderation.
I read the best quote the other day that pretty much sums up my life sometimes...
This could not be more accurate. Am I right? I mean there are days where the struggle is real and it will take everything I have to get up off the couch, put some pants on, and do something productive (usually after getting sucked into a Criminal Minds marathon). We all have those days, let's face it. But instead of quiting after a day of pantsless grubbing, lets get up and try again making small healthy changes. Its called balance.