For the past 3 years, I have been learning the beauty of self-love. I have been learning to accept ALL OF ME, no matter what things I want to pick at and hate on. As many of you know by reading my past blogs, I have struggled in the past with body image, disordered eating, and loving myself (like most woman and even men in this world). I finally found the peace that comes with accepting my body and learned to focus on more important things in life (because ain’t nobody got time for all that body obsessing).
Now my body is going through a new change, an exciting but different change. My body is growing. My hips are widening, my butt is getting bigger, my boobs are finally visible FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE (allllll the praise hands), and my belly is slowly popping out to where it looks like I am constantly bloating.
I would be lying to you if I said that I have loved every bit of my body’s changes so far but knowing that I am growing a HUMAN in my belly makes every single change worth it. Also, having boooooobs will never be something I will ever complain about. It also helps having my husband love me in all the changes and telling me that he loves my growing butt and body.
I have had many people tell me “Ohhh your hips and stomach will never look the same after baby” or “yeah, you’re never going to be the size you were before baby.” These are all moms who have had first hand experience with it all so they have every right to say it. It sounds like such a daunting thing though. Just like when people would tell me the best I will ever look in my life will be when I am getting married.
Why does it have to be a problem though? I mean obviously our bodies change with age and other life events, but why does that have to be a bad thing? Sooo I may never look as tan or as thin as I did on my wedding day but danggggg do I feel just as happy if not happier with where my life is in this moment than I did during my wedding time.
We have got to get rid of this idea of a perfect body or the idea that we will ever look as fit or as thin as we did when we were in high school. If you are over the age of 25, your body will go through changes. Your metabolism may slow down, your ability or want for working out as much as you did may decrease. Things will happen to your body and IT IS OKAY!
We have to stop hoping that our body will get back to our pre-pregnancy weight and our abs will look as perfect as they did before giving birth if we just starve ourselves and do a million ab workouts. We need to stop obsessing and start loving. I am going into this pregnancy knowing that my body may never look the same after but holy crapppppp I am bringing a TINY MIRACLE into this world and it is worth every belly growth and stretch mark I may acquire.
No matter what changes our body goes through, we HAVE to show it love. Wherever you are in your journey, it is time to practice self-love. Whether you are dealing with the extra pounds after pregnancy, on steroids that have made you gain weight, or dealing with a condition like PCOS that makes it harder for you to lose weight; STOP obsessing over the scale and start obsessing over how beautiful you already are!
This world is full of tough critics, but we don’t have to be one of them, especially not to ourselves.
Let’s make a pact to each other to love ourselves a little more each day no matter what kind of journey we are on....who is with me???